You’ve mastered leadership at work.This quick 10-question self-assessment will show how that leadership is transferring to your family life.Tally your score and discover what’s working and where to level up.
How clear and practiced are your family’s shared vision, purpose, and values?1 = We’ve never discussed
2 = We talk about it sometimes, but nothing is formal
3 = Written + lived consistently
How confident and intentional are you in leading your home like you lead at work?1 = Mostly reactive or distracted
2 = Sometimes intentional but inconsistent
3 = Present, purposeful, and modeling strong character
How united are you and your spouse in roles, direction, and communication at home?1 = Often misaligned or reactive
2 = Occasionally on the same page but not consistent
3 = Consistently aligned, connected, and leading as a team
How strong and consistent are your daily and weekly connection points with your spouse and kids?1 = Relationships feel surface-level or rushed
2 = Some connection but not a consistent rhythm
3 = Regular one-on-one time and meaningful conversation
How clear are the expectations, responsibilities, and consequences in your home?1 = Inconsistent or unclear
2 = Rules exist but aren’t consistently followed
3 = Clear, fair, and age-appropriate; everyone knows what’s expected
How intentionally are you shaping your children’s faith, character, and worldview?1 = Rarely discussed or modeled
2 = Talked about occasionally but not intentional
3 = Modeled often through actions, conversation, and a faith community (e.g. church)
How reliable are your weekly family rhythms for communication, planning, and quality time?1 = Mostly reactive or chaotic
2 = Some structure but easily disrupted
3 = Consistent rhythms like meals, family check-ins, and shared traditions
How intentionally are you preparing your kids for adulthood through key growth experiences?1 = Not yet on our radar
2 = We’ve done a few things but nothing consistent
3 = We have a clear plan and are creating meaningful milestone moments
How proactive are you in shaping your kids’ environment (home, school, technology, peers) to reflect your family’s priorities?1 = Mostly unmonitored or reactionary
2 = We set some limits or make occasional changes
3 = We’ve made intentional choices that protect and reinforce our values
How clear are you about the kind of adults you want your kids to become and the legacy you’re building together?1 = Haven’t really defined it
2 = Have a general sense but not written or shared
3 = Clear, shared, and guiding daily decisions
You’re likely operating in survival mode. The good news? You're not alone and there’s low-hanging fruit everywhere.
You’re doing some things well, but there’s no intentional system. Now it's time to get proactive.
You’ve got the framework. Now it's time to optimize, challenge, and expand.
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